Age gap relationships

[Elfy]

I'm thinking maybe this should be in the debates board but I'd realy like to know everyone's opinions on this 

[Lady Arwen]

I'm saying what a very special person told me, that age isn't (or shouldn't be) a decisive factor in relationships, but the love the two have for one another. I know that many people place a lot of stress on the age difference between the partners...but I think that if the difference isn't like 30 years or so, it should be secondary.

[Hulo_uruk]

When the love is real-the ages dosen't matter-if the diference is not so big like 30years.This is my opinion!

[Elfy]

I'm asking basically cos the guy I think I'm kinda with now is 39, and I'm 22 
But we're both adults, and it doesnt matter to either of us.

Carry on though, I'm interested to know what people think. And please be honest. Brutally honest if you want 

[Lessa]

What matters is do the two people involved get on. Do they talk to each other. Do they respect each other seperate interests not just the shared ones. Is it a partnership rather than a master servant sort of thing.
If the answer is yes to the above then I can't see a problem if there are any nos then there could be.

Lessa

[Lúthien Elanessë]

Age definitely doesn't matter to me if you really love that person even if they're 35 years older than you.

[Lady Arwen]

Age definitely doesn't matter to me if you really love that person even if they're 35 years older than you.

yeah, it doesn't matter now, but it's bound to matter later when you are still a young woman and he'll be a really old man...that is, if he's still alive. I know that what I'm saying is pretty cruel, but you can't deny it can well be the case when the difference is greater than 30 years.

[Waelith]

I can see how hard it would be in a way, when the older one dies... The younger one has a long time left, possibly alone. That would be the problem I would have, I think... especially if you really did love them.
Sorry I am being morbid again. (sigh) Ill stop now...

[andonewhitetree]

It's only when one person isn't an adult that it becomes a bit of an issue i think

[Elfy]

I can see how hard it would be in a way, when the older one dies... The younger one has a long time left, possibly alone. That would be the problem I would have, I think... especially if you really did love them.
Sorry I am being morbid again. (sigh) Ill stop now...

But you could say that with couples of the same age..........one could be run over by a bus tomorrow.

[Lady Arwen]

yeah, but it's also a question of fate as compared to probability. we could all die by some tragic accident, but some things in life are certain, for instance that in an ideal situation(no accidents, no diseases) the younger WILL outlive by far the older one.

[Isiong]

As long as it is not say, an adult and a minor, then age is just a number, if it's real love, then it should conquer all boundaries.

But I did read this article recently about an American teacher who was about 35 when she had sex with her 12 year old pupil!! I find that disgraceful..she went to prison for it and now she is out, he is 22 and they are planning to get married, so it must have been love, but that still doesn't justify what she did, in my opinion it's wrong!

[Kirstie]

Yeah, when its someone quite old with a minor its weird, because when theyre that young then it could be taking advantage. But I think when you get to even 15 you're capable of making a descision depending on your maturity.

As I told you on msn Elfy hun, its your choice and you're mature and responsible enough to make your own choices - you have my support, as i said.

[In AmericEar]

Originally I would say its only the love that counts but really say the man is 30 years older (Brother knows a girl going out with a man 30 years older) And you have kids. theyll lose their father at a highly young age, which, in my opinion isnt fair on the child growing up without a father.

[Isiong]

aye, but isn't it better to have a loving father for a while, whereas if the parents didn't love one another they would just break up or stay together for the kids so the kid wouldn't have a good family life anyways, if you get what I mean..

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